I lied to steal my best friend’s man

Dear Pastor,

I have been married for three and a half years and I am suffering with my husband. I am paying for my bad deeds.

I literally took away this man from my best friend. I told lies on her by telling this man that she was keeping another man with him. He believed me because I was so close to this girl, but it was jealousy that caused me to tell those lies. I had a boyfriend but he was not treating me well and this man and my best friend had everything going for them. One day she told me that he was taking her to eat fish and she asked me if I would come along with them; I told her yes. While we were at the place, my best friend went into the bathroom and I told this guy "I have a secret to tell you." He asked me what it was and I told him that he should call me later that night. When he called, I told him that my best friend was a bitch and she was having an affair with another man. He told me that he did not believe me. I told him that I would not lie about my best friend, but he should never call my name. He promised that he wouldn't.

A few days after, my best friend told me that this man was accusing her of having another man and she felt that he is going to leave her because he is trying to get her to confess about who the man is. I told her that the only thing I could do for her is to talk to him on her behalf. When I spoke to him, I told him that I know the name of the man, but I could not let my best friend down. To cut a long story short, this man broke up with my best friend and got involved with me. My best friend hated me for taking him, but I made a big mistake because he is not treating me the way he used to treat her. I think karma has taken over.

My best friend no longer talks to me, although I have tried to reach out to her. She is now married and has one child. I went to do business at a certain office and when she saw me, she refused to even greet me. I believe that I should tell this woman the truth. Would you advise me to do so?

L.A.

Dear L.A.,

You are a very wicked girl. Your conscience will not allow you to forget the wickedness you have done to your best friend. You are a notorious liar; only God can deliver you. Some best friends cannot be trusted and you are one of them. If you believe that you will free your conscience by telling her the truth, you may do so, but please remember you would only be freeing your conscience, but you have destroyed a friendship that you can never rebuild.

Pastor